Not talking about being with one partner at a time. Talking about the idea of finding “the one” and being with them your whole life.
50% divorce rate. 97% of people (in the US) don’t wait till marriage, so most of us have multiple sexual partners prior to the one we stick with. Many have children with more than one partner.
How can anyone look at the world and think, yeah, there’s one that’s meant for everyone and just one?
Also hope I don’t come across disrespectful. If you do believe in monogamy, I am interested in hearing from you. I’m just buzzed and thinking about my own love life and being curt
Edit: Speaking to the idea that it’s the “natural order” or default. Not that it can’t work in individual circumstances, especially when we’ve been programmed for decades
So what? As you say, is instinctual. As long as you’re not drooling and you don’t act on it, it’s not a problem. And any person demanding otherwise is toxic and not worthy of your time.
Why are you saying so what? You asked a question and I answered
Not really. You pretty much dodged the question.
If I say I’m monogamous, when do you start calling me a liar?
When you say “so and so is hot!” and I don’t argue?
When I say “so and so is hot!”?
When I bang so and so without breaking up with my current partner?
I’ve read this entire thread, and I’m still not entirely sure where you’d draw that line.
Have you heard of people that are asexual, or sapiosexual?
Beyond that, you have to understand that it’s very easy to twist numbers in a manipulative way.
For example, it’s not 97% of people everywhere don’t wait for marriage.
It’s 97% of the people who answered whatever survey you’re referring to don’t wait.
Where the fuck did they get these people from? College? Nightclubs? Any religious organization?
Statistics are not fact. They are ways of organizing data that would otherwise be overwhelming and impossible to parse.