No, it’s not hypocritical because you’re missing (or ignoring) intent. Someone pressures your relative into doing a crime, reluctantly. Now the other criminal gets killed and your reluctant relative is on the hook for a murder they didn’t commit during a crime they didn’t really want to be a part of.

That is in no way comparable to a mastermind gathering a bunch of stooges for a suicide mission and getting them to commit death by cop.