• kinsnik@lemmy.world
    82·
    10 days ago

    The only time you would ever need to use someone’s pronouns is when they’re not part of the conversation anyway.

    no? it would be weird to use in a one-on-one conversation, true. but it is fairly common to use the third person pronoun of someone during a group conversation, even while they are there

    • Jackthelad@lemmy.worldEnglish
      45·
      10 days ago

      I don’t do this, and growing up was taught that it was rude to refer to someone by anything other than their name in a group conversation.

    • rah@feddit.ukEnglish
      14·
      10 days ago

      it is fairly common to use the third person pronoun of someone during a group conversation, even while they are there

      But is improper to do so. The proper way to refer to a person who is present is by using their name.

      • Skua@kbin.earth
        61·
        9 days ago

        You don’t use the person’s name every time when you’re talking about them in their presence. If I’m with my friends Mark and Fergus, and I’m telling Mark a story about something that happened to me and Fergus earlier that day, I’m going to use “he” or “his” to refer to Fergus a lot.

        “Can’t believe how close we came to an accident on the way here. We were walking past a building with some scaffolding on it, and a brick just about hit me on the head. Fergus was looking up at the site anyway because his company is advertising on the site, so he saw it fall and stopped me just on time.”

        • rah@feddit.ukEnglish
          13·
          9 days ago

          You don’t use the person’s name every time when you’re talking about them in their presence.

          Those who appreciate polite behaviour do.

          • Skua@kbin.earth
            31·
            9 days ago

            “Can’t believe how close we came to an accident on the way here. We were walking past a building with some scaffolding on it, and a brick just about hit me on the head. Fergus was looking up at the site anyway because Fergus’s company is advertising on the site, so Fergus saw it fall and stopped me just on time.”

            Nobody talks like this

            • rah@feddit.ukEnglish
              11·
              9 days ago

              LOL people talk like this. I think perhaps you meant to say that nobody you know talks like this.

      • kinsnik@lemmy.world
        2·
        10 days ago

        maybe i have never been in proper situations, then, because in my experience, people will use pronouns or names indistinctly