I don’t think this is always the case. I was asked by a woman that I was training at work if she could borrow $20 a few months ago and this was my initial response “what for?” Then my brain kicked in and I recognized that it could be for something innocuous like lunch or something else like tampons or other personal items and that it wasn’t any of my business, so I told her “sorry that seemed kind of personal” and offered it to her.
If someone asked me for a more significant amount of money, I’d definitely want to know what for, but a one-time request for $20 is fairly inconsequential to me if it’s someone I know.
In a “no time to explain” situation: most of my friends and family
If they actively refuse to explain: maybe my 2-3 closest people whom I trust they have a good reason for that kind of secrecy.
Explaining what’s going on is the price you pay for free money.
I don’t think this is always the case. I was asked by a woman that I was training at work if she could borrow $20 a few months ago and this was my initial response “what for?” Then my brain kicked in and I recognized that it could be for something innocuous like lunch or something else like tampons or other personal items and that it wasn’t any of my business, so I told her “sorry that seemed kind of personal” and offered it to her.
If someone asked me for a more significant amount of money, I’d definitely want to know what for, but a one-time request for $20 is fairly inconsequential to me if it’s someone I know.
Same for me