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minus-squareRozz@lemmy.sdf.orglinkfedilinkarrow-up19·13 hours agoMy wife has heard a similar one that she uses - “Do you want me to listen, get mad for you, or help you”. I think sometimes “do you want real talk” can be part of it once they’ve processed a little bit because the truth can be harder to hear. .
minus-squarexpinchx@lemmy.worldlinkfedilinkarrow-up8·13 hours agoYeah candor/feedback are hard in relationships and getting “consent” before doing that can help a lot. It takes a lot of trust to get to that level.
My wife has heard a similar one that she uses - “Do you want me to listen, get mad for you, or help you”. I think sometimes “do you want real talk” can be part of it once they’ve processed a little bit because the truth can be harder to hear. .
Yeah candor/feedback are hard in relationships and getting “consent” before doing that can help a lot. It takes a lot of trust to get to that level.