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I can agree with all that, I think it comes off as endorsement or defense when coupled with the words of the third parties above, if that was not your intention then my mistake.
Migrating here (or maybe keeping both) from @ArcaneSlime@lemmy.ml
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I can agree with all that, I think it comes off as endorsement or defense when coupled with the words of the third parties above, if that was not your intention then my mistake.
It would seem you think that women should be presumed innocent and men presumed guilty based on the number of people in each respective demographic that have been convicted of sexual assault in a court of law, based upon this thread here.
You seem to think people being upset about things is inconsequential without it going through a peer review process, I’m just trying to gauge where your limit is for that.
I didn’t say “baby photos” I said “if your wife tells you she is upset about something do you ask her for peer reviewed studies on how that something could possibly psychologically effect someone negatively, or do you just believe she is feeling how she says she is feeling?”
Well it’s usually done to teen children’s teen partners ime, but ok fine I hope your adult childs adult partner asks for copies for later, the age of the person making the creepy comment is really not important but I think it’s worse if they’re adults so I’ll roll with it lol. Maybe she doesn’t know her husband’s proclivities, I’m not sure most pedos advertise it willingly, but he’s “tooootally not gonna spank it he just wants it for archival purposes” lol.
If your wife says “not tonight I have a headache” do you ask for evidence of hypertension? If she says something you did made her upset do you ask for evidence in a peer reviewed paper on why X could possibly be psychologically damaging? I’d bet the answer is “no I take her word at face value because it is her feelings after all.” But fuck the feelings of others? Would I have to begrudgingly have sex with you for you to take my word about my feelings?
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Oh ok so only if I have a peer reviewed case, not if it actually affected me, how’d I know that’d be your lame excuse.
I hope you show a kid those pics and they ask for copies for later, then it’ll get weird for ya.
Ok, I was personally hurt by it happening to me. Now what’s your excuse?
My case isn’t an exception, it happens more frequently then you’d like to believe and is seldom reported to another human much less law enforcement because men get laughed out of police stations and made fun of by friends. All the worse if the woman is conventionally attractive. In many localities the legal definition of rape is even phrased as “requiring penetration,” meaning in many areas (most of the US and iirc all of the UK included, plus more) women can’t get charged with rape they can only get charged with “sexual assault” at worst. There are many resources for woman victims but not one for male victims, males are not welcome in the women’s groups. Most people you talk to about it just want to tell you some variation of “I pretend I care about male victims but here’s why women are more important than you.”
It happened years ago and I’ve learned to live with it now, I don’t need pity. I need people to stop invalidating male victims, pretending they don’t exist, pretending we don’t matter due to volume, etc, to help the ones it happens to now. Fuck me I’m fine now, but whatever dude it happens to today somewhere out there in the world could use some help.
Also traditions that, despite someone else’s claim, probably don’t cause any psychological harm, at least most of the time.
Actually you asked for nothing, you made a whole lot of assumptions instead. And
evidence that it hurts anyone
Here again you invalidate the feelings of those telling you with their own words that they don’t like it. The evidence they don’t like it is them telling you they don’t like it, you don’t need a scientific paper to corroborate that some people find it objectionable, you just dismiss them because you want to partake in the behavior they find objectionable.
I think you may be surprised and hopefully disturbed by this UNICEF article.
Despite a steady decline in this harmful practice over the past decade, child marriage remains widespread, with approximately one in five girls married in childhood across the globe. Today, multiple crises – including conflict, climate shocks and the ongoing fallout from COVID-19 – are threatening to reverse progress towards eliminating this human rights violation. The United Nations Sustainable Development Goals call for global action to end child marriage by 2030.
So no, it was not “a long time ago.” It’s “hopefully by 2030.”
Also traditions that, despite someone else’s claim, probably don’t cause any psychological harm, at least most of the time.
Oh, so as long as you don’t believe the person and can therefore invalidate their feelings without guilt, and it only psychologically hurts “some” people who you I suppose arbitrarily believe over the ones you don’t, it’s fine?
Not sure I can agree with you on this one.
As a male victim of TWO count 'em TWO sexual assaults perpetrated by TWO count em TWO different women, “fuck me, I don’t matter.”
You gonna bring up that I “obviously wanted it because I’m a man” next? Go ahead and block me for downvoting both that comment and yours, make my lemmy a better place.
Because the overwheling majority of sexual assault convictions are of men. It’s true.
OHHH because the women who sexually assaulted me didn’t get convicted in a court of law, because I didn’t report them, because nobody cares about male victims, we should use that to further invalidate the experiences of future male victims? My mistake, how silly of me.
Tbf child marriage is also traditional, Muhammed had a 9yo bride (it’s “ok,” he didn’t have sex with her until she was 11.)
Defending things based solely on tradition can get pretty weird sometimes.
No, because when it’s over 40 he either uses a bus, train, plane, or someone else’s car. He never said he bikes 40mi, he says “sometimes he travels 40mi.”
Seems the commenter you replied to either thinks he means bikes, or was making a joke about the obvious missing information on the method of over 40mi travel.
Tbf there is sort of a barrier to entry to text based websites or at least the comment section therein, it is a reasonable expectation that everyone reading the comment section can either read or TTS it or else they wouldn’t be here. It is not a reasonable assumption that everyone who is concerned about the privacy of automobiles has the use of their legs. While cars can be built in such a way that legs are not necessary, to my knowledge bicycles have yet to be unless we’re counting wheelchairs.
Dude don’t trash it, give it to some kid that may appreciate it, or sell/donate it to a thrift store at the very least. It may not be the best guitar but it’s in fine shape, and you could change the life of some kid too poor to afford his own.
That said, chords are easier than arpeggios, idk what kind of music you’re into but I’d start (well, “start” with learning the chords, then) with something like Pink Floyd’s Wish You Were Here or The Penguins Earth Angel (for example.)
Caesar no!
You’d think it’d make them do the opposite, idk about you but I’d be more scared of that guy than regular troops and I’d be gunning for him. “He’s clearly crazy, lord knows what he’ll do.”
No retraumitization here, just all too used to seeing people actually minimize male victim’s experience which I tend to push back against, so maybe I was a touch jumpy lol. All good!