She had also expressed that she was ok with me seeing the pics I had of her, knowing well that many of those were wildly sexual (she even sent a :( when I said I’d delete them)
She’s the asshole for how she’s dealt with this entire situation. Those are mixed friggen signals. She sounds fucking greasy. Best of luck.
Dude… Just no. If she was done with the relationship it was her responsibility to inform you. Don’t gaslight yourself just because it’s hard to be upset with her.
If you were in a relationship and she didn’t end it, and then proceeded to date someone else, that’s cheating.
She could have just told you, she chose to go behind your back. And it’s not because she was scared of hurting you, if that was the case she wouldn’t have cheated on you.
Good luck out there.