Most people don’t want freedom. They want rules and mods to enforce them so they don’t see things that they find offensive.
If everything is self-hosted, why would community wishes matter? Just block the people that disagree with you and do what you want. If you’re getting abused, block the abusers. If people are disruptive, ignore them. That’s pretty much how the internet used to work back when we were using forums and personal sites instead of modern social media.
Exploding Heads exploded. They’re not on lemmy anymore.