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Cake day: March 17th, 2025

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  • I got divorced from a 10+ year relationship in my late 20s, and then had a nasty, bad breakup from my first relationship after at 30. I had a small group of friends that stuck around, but lost many in the process of each breakup.

    I never really kept in touch with people from highschool and earlier, though, so I can’t comment on them

    Things do get better. At 35 I’m now in a better relationship than I ever had before. I have new friends and new circles. A new chapter in my life was started, and things are better than they ever have been before.

    I don’t know if this will work for you, maybe it doesn’t work out sometimes. But guys can, and do, recover from it.



  • When I was younger, maybe 8-10, I was at the beach with my family. I had always been a strong swimmer, we went to this beach fairly often, there were plenty of people around, and always had lifeguards on duty. It wasn’t stormy or bad weather at all.

    I was swimming on my own when I got stuck in the undertow of the waves. I remember getting pulled back about 6 feet underwater before I was able to surface again. By that point, I was hit by the next wave, knocking me over and back into the undertow. This repeated for what felt like an hour but was probably only around 5 minutes, maybe 10. I was anxiously looking for lifeguards and trying to signal for help anytime I was on the surface, but no one ever noticed me.

    My grandmother had taught me what to do if I ever got stuck in the waves, though, and instead of trying to fight the current I just started riding it and swimming parallel to the shore. I eventually got back to the beach and walked back to my family, and I remember it being so much longer to get back that seemed reasonable.

    I was sure I was going to drown, getting sucked out and down under the ocean.