she/they, non-binary transfeminine individual based in Berlin

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  • Well, my brain seems to be affected by it according to that test (difference score of 11) if I interpret the scale correctly

    But well, I also got autism and quite a few other mental conditions and learned all my life to cope quite well with all my disabilities; that’s why I specifically outsource direction question to a visualization that make the answer more tangible for me than listening to my intuition.

    But well, what works for some doesn’t necessarily work for all. And probably my other conditions have some influence on it as well. We’re all different, after all; even if sharing a few traits.



  • I get that. My intuition often mixes both up, too.

    That’s why I trained myself to say “driver-side” and “passenger-side” in my head when left or right come up. To a point where I don’t even have to think about thinking about it. I just visualize which side of car is meant instead of the rather abstract concept of left and right

    Might not help you; but it helps me







  • I don’t disagree with the point that it shouldn’t need to be this way.

    But it is what it is; and it’s live saving medication that has to come from somewhere.

    People are fighting to tackle the problem officially; but they also have to somehow live in the meantime.

    Almost all trans people would prefer a prescription and medical supervision above having to pay themself and guesstimate the doses without proper bloodwork. But some just don’t have any alternatives.

    And to be clear: I will always recommend people to try the official way first. local transpersons that asked me for advice all got a “I can help you get therapy; I can help you to skip therapy and go the indication route; I can reluctantly help you skip indication and go the informed-consent-route without psychotherapists but still medical supervision, even tho I really discourage that unless your transidentity is obvious since many years; but I will not help you to get DIY (without medical supervision) unless you tried the official approaches, sorry”.

    But for some people, there is no other option than DIY. Getting a place for therapy can be really hard, and some countries have no alternative routes to get a prescription with medical supervision without going through years of therapy first.

    (Btw, I don’t know how the laws are in the UK. I’m from germany. But the problem is the same everywhere. I got lucky to be able to get a prescription, tho; but I know a few people that weren’t)


  • Yes, but it’s a bit hard to get; even in countries that try to improve trans-care rather than reduce it.

    There are just so many therapists; the waiting lists are sometimes simply closed because they stretch years.

    For many people, these hormones mean the difference between a livable life and extreme dysphoria, depression and suicidality.

    If they could get them on the regular way, they would. But the regular way is often full of problems. So some people have to fall back to just do it themself.

    I even heard of doctors who do some medical checks under the counter to ensure everything is done as safe as possible (but aren’t able to prescribe hormones themself without prior psychotherapeutical indication)

    So; your point would be valid in theory, but unfortunately for many trans-people, it’s the only way to get their possibly life-saving medication.








  • the is_even package does not provide much worth indeed because it simply negates is_odd and thereby all its benefit.

    It’s dependency is_odd on the other hand provides at least some additional checks (it also checks if the value is a valid integer below the max int value)

    And while I would indeed see uses for such methods (especially with the other checks, no simple oneliners) in some cases, especially in testing: This is stuff you write yourself, throw it in a e.g. NumberUtils class and everything is fine. You do never depend on an external library for that. The benefit (not spending a few seconds to write it) does not outweigh any of the drawbacks that come with external libraries.


  • Madlaine@feddit.detoADHD@lemmy.worldADHD: Bad for us, but a boon for our ancestors?
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    I’d still be expected to listen when others speak

    I love chillin’ with other ADHD’ers: most understand if you zone out and tell them that.

    My colleagues also accept a “sry, that may sound a bit stupid; but my brain just cannot focus on this topic right now. I’ll come back to that later or tomorrow” (and as long as it’s occasional even a “sry, but my brain cannot do that at all. Can someone else please do this?”)

    cook without burning myself or the food

    I got a kitchen machine that does it for me. I can even forget my food without any chance of burning it. Worst case it’s cold.

    speak without repeating myself, speak in a way that makes sense to others

    Again, this is a problem I only have with neurotypicals; no problem along fellow neurodivergentd

    keep appointments

    Again just something that normal society expects. I have one single appointment per day I can’t miss (start-of-day-meeting). Everything else is movable most of the time. I don’t meet people at certain times, I meet them “that afternoon” and we will write each other when we’re ready

    read and comprehend instructions

    I know many neurotypicals that cannot do that.

    transport myself from place to place without injury or forgetting necessary items…

    Nothing to say against these points, actually…


    What I want to say is that most of the problems you listed are based on the expectations of neueotypicaldom. All of my friends and some of my colleagues are neurodivergent (most ADHD, some ASD, some both, I’m both) and honestly: As long as I don’t have to interact with the neurotypical world I don’t run in that much problems. It’s still not perfect, but way more manageable.