Hey I’m not trying to tell you it isn’t normal to be attracted to people, lord knows I’d be a hypocrite. It just seems like you’re describing a learned behavior associated with the sphere of attraction that might make women uncomfortable. I know one of the replies to your comments mentioned being so uncomfortable by men doing it that they thought about getting a cosmetic mastectomy.
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You don’t have to be good at drawing actually! The point of that sort of stuff (drawing people, still life, etc) is to develop drawing skills.
There are straight up indexes of photos of peoples breasts not presented sexually, if medical stuff squicks you out.
I’m just trying to suggest things because it seems like what you’re describing might make it harder to interact with women as people and might make women uncomfortable, and if that is something you want to fix there are avenues for doing that.
It isn’t that hard though. Go to a nudist retreat or beach, practice figure drawing (there are plenty of free online figure drawing resources), look at medical indexes, watch medical documentaries, just off the top of my head.
Actually sexualization- as opposed to attraction- to breasts isn’t natural, which is wild. There are plenty of cultures where breasts aren’t sexualized, especially near the equator in some traditional cultures where women go topless.
Also as a lesbian in the US who definitely has internalized sexualizing boobs, I don’t find it at all distracting when someone isn’t wearing a bra. Maybe it is just that I see boobs in non-sexual contexts so it only is sexualized within a sexual context? That might be useful if you’re interested in unlearning this habit.
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Also lol Wikipedia
OurToothbrush@lemmy.mlMto World News@lemmy.ml•Xi arrives in Malaysia with a message: China is a better partner than Trump1·3 months agoRead Rosa Luxemburg on the limitations of unions, you’ll have a better idea on why China prefers their union system.
OurToothbrush@lemmy.mlMto World News@lemmy.ml•Xi arrives in Malaysia with a message: China is a better partner than Trump2·3 months agoHow do they not meet the standard?
OurToothbrush@lemmy.mlMto World News@lemmy.ml•Xi arrives in Malaysia with a message: China is a better partner than Trump1·3 months agoThey have a democratic state which owns most of the MoP.
If you don’t think China is democratic, what would they have to do in order to meet the definition?
OurToothbrush@lemmy.mlMto World News@lemmy.ml•Xi arrives in Malaysia with a message: China is a better partner than Trump0·3 months agoA democratic state where the proletariat are in control owning the MoP fundamentally isn’t capitalist, “state capitalist” or otherwise. Capitalism requires specific social relations that aren’t met within socialized ownership.
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Literally the difference between the holocaust and a pogrom.
Similarly, please point out to me what your exact issue is with the report I linked.
A lack of institutional credibility and an unwillingness to read a 20 page report that references things that have already been debunked- for example, i took a vertical slice to dig into, looking in detail about their claims of abducted children that do not align with the reality of later western-biased reporting on the issue.
Also, citation needed that Zenz is a fascist. I found much criticism of him, but no credible allegation that he is a fascist.
He describes himself as a “Christian Nationalist” and “on a God given mission to destroy China” and his institute used to be a cia front (arguably still is, although it has now been obscured through another front organization) If he isn’t a fascist, he is close enough to the picture that he still isn’t credible.
OurToothbrush@lemmy.mlMto World News@lemmy.ml•Zelensky admits Ukraine does not have military strength to reclaim lost territories from Russia113·7 months agoContinue, you only have several more claims that aren’t cited. For example, the use of language “industrial scale” for torture.
Also please keep in mind that this isn’t a high standard of evidence, as UN reports often are influenced- such as the significant citations of the German fascist Adrien Zenz in some of their reporting on China.
I really like boobs too. But I don’t get distracted by them in normal non-sexual situations. The issue isn’t being attracted, it is the gaze.
I think you’re kind of being dismissive of what that commenter is saying. It is really uncomfortable being looked at like that.