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Cake day: July 1st, 2023

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  • Find a hobby you’re interested in if you don’t have one already. Find a group in your area that meets up to discuss or engage in that hobby in person. Make friends with the people in that group by just existing around them and talking about your shared interest. Maybe one of those friendships turns into a relationship, maybe not.

    Don’t think of the people there as potential partners but as people you like spending time with and genuinely enjoy being around. If one of those friendships has mutual attraction and becomes a partnership, that’s great! If not, you’ll probably meet other people through them and maybe one of those will turn into a relationship.

    Examples of hobbies for introverts that provide more structure for interaction and can have limited talking if needed:

    • Boardgames / dueling card games like Netrunner / tabletop roleplaying games
    • Pinball
    • Video games fighting games or speed running communities are more widespread for in person events
    • Book clubs
    • Hiking, rolling skating, skateboarding, tennis, pickleball, basketball, soccer, bicycling, running, or swimming if you want to get some exercise



  • Have you heard of face blindness? I have kind of the same thing but with cars. As long as it’s the same color, they all look more or less the same to me unless they have bumper stickers. I also travel a lot for work, so I’m constantly getting new rentals that are all a bit different, so I never remember what I’m driving.

    Those factors combined with having a poor awareness of where I am in physical space and time most days has caused me to get into the wrong car way more times than I’d like to admit. I’m just going to say it’s well into the double digits.

    It’s kind of surprising how many people just leave their cars completely unlocked. I always lock mine, and when the door just opens after I hit the button to unlock my car, I assume I’m getting into the right one until it feels wrong when I sit down or if I try to put the key in the ignition and it doesn’t fit. The number of times this has happened would be higher if more people didn’t lock their cars. I quickly realize it’s the wrong car if I try to unlock it and it doesn’t unlock.







  • It perpetuates the myth of recycling and puts the onus on the consumer and state to recycle instead of the corporations to stop using containers that pollute the environment, will be in the environment for decades without breaking down, and is likely causing yet unknown harm in our bodies since plastic is inside all of us now.

    The first of the “3 R’s” is reduce but instead of that being the focus because it hurts their bottom line, they prop up recycling and sell the lie that we can keep living as is if we just recycle more and get better at recycling.




  • If everyone was supportive, I think it would be fine. It’d be seen like needing glasses. We just need this relatively easy medical care and it’s far less effort if intervention is done before puberty.

    Transitioning socially would be less of an issue too since it’d be seen as just something that happens sometimes and has been normalized.




  • There are a lot of different types of poly relationship structures and different names for them. The base unit of relationship is a standard couple where 2 people are together. Add another person in and they can either be in a relationship with only one of those people and form a “hinge” aka “V” or be in a relationship with both of those people and form a “triad” aka “throuple”. As many people as those involved consent to can be added this way.

    Most of the time it’s one person who is in a relationship with multiple people who are each in relationships with multiple people. This forms a “polycule”. Where you have the people you’re in relationships with aka your “paramours” and they have the people they’re in relationships with aka your “metamours”. This group of relationships can take many forms and can be drawn out into a cool diagram like a molecule, hence the name polycule.

    The people you’re in a relationship with can break up with you like in any other relationship and vice versa. It’s more complicated when you add in housing situations if you’re all living together, multiple people are all dating each other, or if two people are married.

    Using one of my breakups as an example:
    I’ve been in a triad where one person broke up with the other. I was then put in the middle of their breakup drama. I set a boundary of not wanting to deal with their drama/shit talking of the other. One of them kept breaking that boundary, so I broke up with that person while still being in a relationship with the other. Luckily I was living with the person I stayed with or that would’ve been way more complicated.


  • Volume changes based on temperature and pressure. So when we reference volume measurements like for flow rates, we typically do the math to adjust those to standard temperature and pressure. Standard pressure is 1 atm but standard temperature varies based on who you’re talking to because of competing standards. It’s usually 25 C or 20 C.

    When we want to reference the non temperature and pressure corrected volume, we append actual to it so that people know what the measurement is. Some people don’t do that and that causes confusion for others using their work if the reading is standard or actual.



  • Have you ever tried to not eat in front of people ever? Turns out it’s pretty hard to do. Sometimes, if you’re nice to people, you get invited to go out to eat to a place. Often those places have no vegan options, and you have to explain why you can’t eat there so people don’t just think you’re blowing them off constantly. We don’t just go around telling everyone we’re vegan like all the hate memes like to say.

    Most vegans I’ve met, myself included, don’t pick fights with people about veganism. We just live by example. It’d be cool if more people went vegan, but arguing with people about doing it doesn’t help. Doing that is like trying to push religion on people or make people experience empathy. It isn’t easy to go vegan (getting easier at least). Food is tied to a lot of people’s culture who have a hard time relearning how to cook/eat and make generational recipes or comfort foods they’ve always eaten.