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Cake day: June 13th, 2023

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  • If you’re the one working then why would your SO be able to threaten to not pay bills? Maybe it’s time to change which account your paychecks are going to. Have you considered opening a separate account just for you? Or try taking your name (or theirs) off as many joint accounts as possible. Maybe freezing your credit so nothing else can be opened in your name (assuming you’re in the us)? Are you are legally married to them? If so filing for divorce might be another avenue to talk to a lawyer about. (Most lawyers don’t charge for the initial consultation).

    Are there any domestic violence shelters in your vicinity? It truely sounds like you’re in an abusive relationship and being held hostage in your own home. It’s only a matter of time before the violence gradually increases, because nothing you will ever do will appease them long enough to change their minds on how to treat you. Can you record people in your state/country? The us has some states where only one party needs permission to record so giving yourself permission is fully acceptable to begin recording. There are also some apps that can record audio/video when the phone appears off and uploads the video onto the internet.

    You do not have to answer any of these questions. This internet stranger is just worried for you and truly hopes you find a safe haven. Regardless of anything else, I’m proud of you for working so hard to better yourself and your circumstances!


  • Great breakdown! I’d like to add train to the options. OP might be able to utilize an Amtrak train for a portion of the trip depending on the travel destination. Here’s a map of their routes. Tickets can be purchased online, they offer assistance for disabilities, and they have places to lie down or eat food.

    If you decide to fly OP, consider getting a pack of gum to chew on to help with pressure/popping in your ears during altitude changes of takeoff and landing.



  • It will likely scare them the first time as it’s new/unfamiliar, but they’ll begin to normalize it with repeated events (as long as there is no physical/situational aggressiveness toward them). Once they acclimate to the singing, they might still get a small jump scare if you begin abruptly belting out something, but as you continue the song they would likely relax back down recognizing it as not a danger. I find most pets will try to hide/runaway when they don’t like a sound, so indifference from a pet is akin to general acceptance of your presence imo.

    Here’s wishing you a wonderful performance!


  • Maybe the FBI would be a better contact in this case? I may be wrong, but to me the brothers explicit words of intention and access to guns seems very much like a threat of premeditated domestic terrorism. If that’s indeed the case, here’s the FBI’s page with contact options near the bottom.

    I’m so sorry you’re having to deal/live with this OP. You deserve much better. This internet stranger is proud of you for doing all that’s within your power in such a shitty situation!






  • According to the lyrics, they aren’t exclusively complaining, they’re telling “good stories” about their not-so-great experience which is a different thing. Also, they never tried to be a ‘good guest’ at parties, merely that they were found to be ‘interesting at parties’ because of their ‘good stories’.

    That said, I really wish they didn’t repeat lyrics so much and instead told more of those “good stories” they keep boasting about.