• hansl@lemmy.world
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    To a certain point it does, but you have to manage the kid. I think the best advice we got was “don’t tell the kid it’s time, tell the kid they got a minute then it’s time. Start a one minute hourglass. The kid will understand and mentally be ready.”

    This works wonderfully. “In one minute we’ll turn off tv and brush your teeth.” That’s it. You’re not taking his toy out of nowhere anymore, you made a pact with them and they know exactly what’s going to happen.

    Sometimes it doesn’t work; that’s because the kid is too tired or emotional. That’s still on the parent for not reading and managing the cues.

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      I do the same for my kids. To be fair once I understood that if someone was not doing this with me I would be annoyed. What if ever time you were relaxing someone just picked a seemingly random time to tell you to work?

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        Right? That’s why places tell you they’re closing in five/ten minutes instead of just “get out, it’s time now bye bye”.

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          You know someone should just write down all these parenting ideas and put it in book form. I bet no one has figured that out before. A guide to parenting if you will.

          Patent pending!

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              Dude, I love that show. I’ll be traveling for work alone in my hotel room and put Bluey on. It’s a great show. My son likes it too which is nice.

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            Basically. The best advice I can give parents is to read about parenthood. Doesn’t matter which book. Any bestselling parenting book will make you a better parent than the average. Because the average does not read and just wing it.

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      We LIVE by the timer with my 5 year old and he rarely throws tantrums anymore. Have a nice 20 minutes colored time that’s super easy to see the time tick down and any transition we give him 5~ minutes notice.