MrHamza@lemm.ee to No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world · 8 hours agoWhy are parents so obsessed with the idea of their kids "settling down"?message-squaremessage-square37fedilinkarrow-up165arrow-down14
arrow-up161arrow-down1message-squareWhy are parents so obsessed with the idea of their kids "settling down"?MrHamza@lemm.ee to No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world · 8 hours agomessage-square37fedilink
minus-squarexylogx@lemmy.worldlinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up9arrow-down1·6 hours agoAnd a grandkid or two would be nice…
minus-squareGeodad@lemm.eelinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up7arrow-down15·edit-25 hours agoSome Inheritance would be nice, but my boomer dad insists on spending it himself. Neither of us get what we want.
minus-squarethe_tab_key@lemmy.worldlinkfedilinkarrow-up18arrow-down4·edit-25 hours agoThat selfish bastard! Using the money he earned himself on him! Fucking boomer …I get your point though (I think?), just not very obvious.
minus-squareGeodad@lemm.eelinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up6arrow-down1·3 hours agoAnd I want to save money by not having kids. 🤨
minus-squareBossDj@lemm.eelinkfedilinkarrow-up1·2 hours agoIt’s fair in a sense that his father may have left him inheritance
minus-squareSiegfried@lemmy.worldlinkfedilinkarrow-up3arrow-down2·3 hours agoIt’s his money, not yours
minus-squareGeodad@lemm.eelinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up4arrow-down1·3 hours agoYeah, and what if I choose not to have kids to save my money? It’s my money, not his.
minus-squareOpinionhaver@feddit.uklinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up1arrow-down1·2 hours agoYou’re not obligated to have children - just like your dad isn’t obligated to leave you an inheritance.
minus-squareGeodad@lemm.eelinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up2·2 hours agoExactly. So why are my boomer parents so insistent about grandkids? It’s expensive enough for just 2 of us to live. Why bring a 3rd into the situation?
minus-squareOpinionhaver@feddit.uklinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up1·2 hours agoThe discussion wasn’t about them being insistent on grandkids - it was about you being insistent on inheritance. If you think they’re being unreasonable, then it’s worth recognizing that your own insistence might be just as unreasonable.
minus-squareGeodad@lemm.eelinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up1·1 hour agoI don’t expect inheritance from him. Honestly, I don’t know why I haven’t gone no contact with him yet.
minus-squaremriormro@lemm.eelinkfedilinkarrow-up7arrow-down4·4 hours agoThis reeks of privilege, dawg. Check yourself.
minus-squareGeodad@lemm.eelinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up6arrow-down2·3 hours agoThe boomers made their way, then pulled the ladder up behind them. That’s privilege.
minus-squaremriormro@lemm.eelinkfedilinkarrow-up1·2 hours agoFor the overwhelming majority of the US population the notion of an ‘inheritance’ has not nor will it ever cross their mind. Be bitter about the lack of social safety nets or any investments by those in power into the poor and middle class. Not because you aren’t getting something from a loved one you somehow believe you were owed.
minus-squareGeodad@lemm.eelinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up1·1 hour agoOh, I hate this country with a passion. Dad just wastes his money on dumb shit. He’s like a teenager in a 65 year old body. He never spent as much on us growing up as he does and always has on himself. I’ll be sure to find the seediest nursing home I can when he can’t afford to live on his own anymore.
And a grandkid or two would be nice…
Some Inheritance would be nice, but my boomer dad insists on spending it himself. Neither of us get what we want.
That selfish bastard! Using the money he earned himself on him! Fucking boomer
…I get your point though (I think?), just not very obvious.
And I want to save money by not having kids. 🤨
It’s fair in a sense that his father may have left him inheritance
It’s his money, not yours
Yeah, and what if I choose not to have kids to save my money?
It’s my money, not his.
You’re not obligated to have children - just like your dad isn’t obligated to leave you an inheritance.
Exactly.
So why are my boomer parents so insistent about grandkids?
It’s expensive enough for just 2 of us to live. Why bring a 3rd into the situation?
The discussion wasn’t about them being insistent on grandkids - it was about you being insistent on inheritance. If you think they’re being unreasonable, then it’s worth recognizing that your own insistence might be just as unreasonable.
I don’t expect inheritance from him.
Honestly, I don’t know why I haven’t gone no contact with him yet.
This reeks of privilege, dawg. Check yourself.
The boomers made their way, then pulled the ladder up behind them. That’s privilege.
For the overwhelming majority of the US population the notion of an ‘inheritance’ has not nor will it ever cross their mind.
Be bitter about the lack of social safety nets or any investments by those in power into the poor and middle class.
Not because you aren’t getting something from a loved one you somehow believe you were owed.
Oh, I hate this country with a passion.
Dad just wastes his money on dumb shit. He’s like a teenager in a 65 year old body.
He never spent as much on us growing up as he does and always has on himself.
I’ll be sure to find the seediest nursing home I can when he can’t afford to live on his own anymore.