“Settlings Down” can mean different things.
It could mean:
- get married, have babies, keep a job for 10 years.
- stop getting drunk every night. Stop sleeping with random strangers. Keep a job long enough to pay me the $200 you owe me. Stop calling me at 3 AM to bail you out.
I think the first is often used as a polite way to say the second.
Probably they see their kids as an investment and want to see dividends in the form of A, grandchildren and/or B, financial support in their old age. In that regard it’s inherently selfish. At least justifiably so, but still.
Or maybe they just want their kids to have a successful life? (in the traditional sense)
They’ll not going to be around forever so they want to know you’ll be able to look after yourself.
And a grandkid or two would be nice…
Some Inheritance would be nice, but my boomer dad insists on spending it himself. Neither of us get what we want.
That selfish bastard! Using the money he earned himself on him! Fucking boomer
…I get your point though (I think?), just not very obvious.
This reeks of privilege, dawg. Check yourself.
Imho, it’ partly because then they know their kids have reached that stage in their lives where they are stable and have a home as well as are socially cared for and care for their significant other. Puts their minds at ease basically and they can age peacefully. Most parents basically want the best for their children and this is one symptom of it (now I’m prepared to get the replies of all the people with shitty parents.)
Yeah, this fits more or less where I am. My eldest is 27 and left home 5 years ago. He’s just out of a long term relationship around 6 months. He lives in a different country in central Europe and is living the life. Travels a lot, has a great group of friends spread all over the continent, great job that he really likes earning good money etc. I’m really happy for him and it does give me a sense of ease to see him at a point in his life where he’s thriving.
On the other hand I’d be very happy to see him in a loving relationship and / or owning property instead of paying rent. Snuggles are nice and rent is poverty tax (for the most part) but I’m conscious that owning a property ties him to a place and he’s not ready for that yet.
So…to answer OP…I’m not obsessed with it at all, but they’re nice things to see for your kids that kinda tick the box of “my job here is (mostly) done”.
Because to them settling down means having “made it”. It’s the last checkpoint before you stop being their baby boy/girl and become a full-fledged adult.
So you don’t have to worry so much anymore.
100 thousand years of biological drive and evolution? Add on culture and religious drive to reproduce.
One of the earliest ways religions attempted (and still do) become the dominant religion was simply out breeding the other ones.
Simple: “We let you live–that almost didn’t happen–you owe us grandchildren!”
At least that’s what I tell my children.
Because it’s at that point that we’ve “beat the game”.
Lifescript.exe
A basic reason would be separation anxiety.
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I’m pretty sure “nostupidquestions” comes from the common phrase “No such thing as a stupid question” - which actually implies the opposite of what you’re saying. Either way, why would my question be stupid?
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Next time you don’t understand the post, just move on to the next one. Don’t be an asshole.
That’s not what I asked though. My question was about parents wanting only a particular kind of lifestyle for their children.
