Honestly if it was me I’d look at that text, laugh, and think you were awesome for being real.
From what you’ve said in the texts and in the comments though, you both sound very young (maybe late teens, maybe early 20s). Especially regarding the comment you made about how you both find each other hot, but he always finishes and you never do and that bothers you.
So if I may pull a “dad for a moment” or whatever that community is called — if not, I suppose, stop reading now — then, you should know, for young people (teens/20s), the guy finishing is practically guaranteed, but the gal finishing isn’t, because biologically it’s not that important. Sorry, but biologically the point of sex is to generate new life, so of course the guy has to finish to transmit his seed. Biologically, the gal finishing just helps move it along, but it’s not strictly necessary.
It’s also a sign of immaturity for a man to leave a woman unfinished. Knowing how both work, an older, wiser, and/or more responsible male partner will tend to his female partner’s needs and make sure she finishes first, second, and maybe third. For the young guy, he just wants to point out the hot girl (you said he thinks you’re hot) to his friends and say “I hit that.” Because for young guys, it’s enough to say “I got to finish in that.” But as guys get older, and learn women more, it becomes more proud to say “I made that woman finish twice or three times before I even got my pants off.” That level of restraint and control becomes something guys can become proud of, but it comes with age and experience.
If you think he’s hot, I can understand wanting to pursue the attraction, but I guarantee you, if he thinks you’re hot, so do a dozen other guys, or more, some of whom want to watch you squirm by finishing you 1-3 times before they get going. But whatever, some women really do just wanna get down, and finish themselves later, and that’s fine too. Journey over destination. As a guy I can’t understand it, but I’ve heard it enough, that I get it. What I’m saying is, you deserve the guy who wants to put you first. Believe that you deserve the guy who will, and you’ll find the guy who will… eventually.
And lastly, regarding the guy who said the “you’ll owe me $600 for lost wages” makes you sound like a whore? I don’t read it that way. I read it as, you’re a real person who needs wages to pay bills and you’re being funny. So if I were him, my response might look like “LOL you’re awesome, so when would be a good time for you?”
But hey, what do I know? I’ve only been married for about 20 years. ;)
you both sound very young (maybe late teens, maybe early 20s)
I’m 50. He’s 30-something.
And in your 3rd paragraph thanks for explaining the birds & the bees to me. 😂 But I think I have earned a master’s degree in that after I have birthed three children who are all grown adults now.
In your fifth paragraph, perhaps I can enlighten you that some women literally never orgasm with a man. That’s just how it is. Except one particular man got me there rather easily with his fingers & tongue one day in 2013. He was extremely studious & adept in ALL facets of life, I kid you not.
Honestly if it was me I’d look at that text, laugh, and think you were awesome for being real.
From what you’ve said in the texts and in the comments though, you both sound very young (maybe late teens, maybe early 20s). Especially regarding the comment you made about how you both find each other hot, but he always finishes and you never do and that bothers you.
So if I may pull a “dad for a moment” or whatever that community is called — if not, I suppose, stop reading now — then, you should know, for young people (teens/20s), the guy finishing is practically guaranteed, but the gal finishing isn’t, because biologically it’s not that important. Sorry, but biologically the point of sex is to generate new life, so of course the guy has to finish to transmit his seed. Biologically, the gal finishing just helps move it along, but it’s not strictly necessary.
It’s also a sign of immaturity for a man to leave a woman unfinished. Knowing how both work, an older, wiser, and/or more responsible male partner will tend to his female partner’s needs and make sure she finishes first, second, and maybe third. For the young guy, he just wants to point out the hot girl (you said he thinks you’re hot) to his friends and say “I hit that.” Because for young guys, it’s enough to say “I got to finish in that.” But as guys get older, and learn women more, it becomes more proud to say “I made that woman finish twice or three times before I even got my pants off.” That level of restraint and control becomes something guys can become proud of, but it comes with age and experience.
If you think he’s hot, I can understand wanting to pursue the attraction, but I guarantee you, if he thinks you’re hot, so do a dozen other guys, or more, some of whom want to watch you squirm by finishing you 1-3 times before they get going. But whatever, some women really do just wanna get down, and finish themselves later, and that’s fine too. Journey over destination. As a guy I can’t understand it, but I’ve heard it enough, that I get it. What I’m saying is, you deserve the guy who wants to put you first. Believe that you deserve the guy who will, and you’ll find the guy who will… eventually.
And lastly, regarding the guy who said the “you’ll owe me $600 for lost wages” makes you sound like a whore? I don’t read it that way. I read it as, you’re a real person who needs wages to pay bills and you’re being funny. So if I were him, my response might look like “LOL you’re awesome, so when would be a good time for you?”
But hey, what do I know? I’ve only been married for about 20 years. ;)
I’m 50. He’s 30-something.
And in your 3rd paragraph thanks for explaining the birds & the bees to me. 😂 But I think I have earned a master’s degree in that after I have birthed three children who are all grown adults now.
In your fifth paragraph, perhaps I can enlighten you that some women literally never orgasm with a man. That’s just how it is. Except one particular man got me there rather easily with his fingers & tongue one day in 2013. He was extremely studious & adept in ALL facets of life, I kid you not.
It’s not flattery. It means you are horribly immature