Get older.
Get older.
Working on it.
Oh yeah, for sure, my emotions have all gotten less. Less high, less low, I’ve just chilled out in every direction
To you and @Dr. Wesker , how old are we talking about? Roughly after how many decades this becomes something you notice- and does it keep building up?
I’m in my mid 30s and I can agree I don’t feel anywhere as intensely as I did ten years ago, but for me this is a bug, not a feature. So I’m really curious about how others have fared in this regard
Weird.
It sounds like a BS answer, but it’s true. My personal experience is that the older I’ve gotten, the less I’m affected by the world around me. My best guess is the experience of time can lend coping mechanisms, under the proper circumstances I’m sure.
It’s just not actionable. It’s not something you can do.
That’s a fair take. But I will say that we just grew a little older together, and I’ll take your point to heart when dealing with others.
I get the sentiment, but what is it rooted in? Extreme experiences giving you a new perspective making old anxieties feel like nothing. That’s just statistics. That’s saying that the longer you live, the more likely you are to experience those kinds of things.
I don’t know, I just live here.
Acknowledge them. Allow yourself to feel them, knowing they are only temporary. The more you try to suppress them, the longer it will take to work through them.
Exercise
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After Newports, one supposes :-)
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I used to be very empathic, I cared so much about the world and everyone in it. Making sure people were taken care of, and hoping for the best for everything. I would get depressed when bad things happened and I couldn’t do anything about it. But as I’ve gotten older and the world has gotten so much worse and it keeps getting worse and worse. I find I’ve adopted an “It is what it is” attitude about nearly everything. I have zero faith in humanity and it’s ability to over come the downward spiral we are in, and doubt we will still be here in 100 years, and frankly have gotten to the point were I feel that might be for the best. Time for the universe to hit reset and start again.
We’re not special. Some of us tried, but after a few decades on this earth I am not sure we collectively deserve it.
Why would I want to do that? I wanna feel everything at the appropriate volume.
What if the appropriate volume is “lower”?
Then you pair it with a soundtrack that features songs providing an emotional counterbalance. If you’re feeling depressed, play aggressive music. If you’re feeling stressed, play happy music. If you’re feeling manic, play desperate music, like hopeless love songs. If you’re feeling angry, play something wistful and dreamy. If you’re bored, play dance music. If you’re restless, also play dance music, but push back the furniture and dance to it.
This is great, thanks!
Maybe they aren’t feeling things at the appropriate volume.
Yes, but the question was about me.
(not a serious response but a true one)
Antidepressants
Hey, came here to say the same thing!
Yay! Antidepressants!
Not even to begin discussing the effect they have on experiencing… other things… 😅
I find when I have a balanced life nothing in particular tends to make much of an impact. And when it does, those emotions are important and you shouldn’t try to douse them. For example if your mother dies, it’s normal and healthy to feel devastated.
What I mean by a balanced life is a meaningful job, fulfilling social relationships both romantic and non-romantic, hobbies and interests- intellectual and physical.
Stay far away from drugs.
Med. I. Cation. Specifically Prozac. It works great for me, but we’re all different. Since I’ve been on it, it’s changed my life. So many things were attached to my mental health that I never knew.
I tried a bunch of different antidepressants. Lexapro, Zoloft, Prozac, Lamictal, Abilify. None of them helped, just kinda made me feel number and more tired. I gave up for a few years. Then I tried Celexa and it worked. It was like night and day. Holy shit, life is so much better now.
So try not to feel discouraged if you’ve tried medication and it didn’t help. There’s a ton out there, and more being developed all the time.
Yeah, I went through a bunch. I haven’t tried that one yet, but it turns out I’m very sensitive to medication, because Vraylar made me feel insane.
Now they want me to do some sort of drug test, “geo mind” or something like that, which will help me narrow down what medications to try next.
But 20Mg Fluoxetine is taking really good care of me rn. It gives me a bump like Adderall, which is great for my ADHD, and I feel so calm and not like I wanna just piss everyone off all the time - which is how I have been my entire unmedicated (or heavily self-medicated with alcohol) life.Like I said, things I never knew we’re related to mental health are better now.
Thanks for sharing your story, I really hope a younger version of me sees this, and decides to talk to a psychiatrist instead of drinking too much.
Things that work for me, not necessarily recommendations:
- Mindfulness practices
- Always be a little bit too busy for comfort, keeps you from dwelling on things
- Smoke; weed or tobacco, both help
- Deliberately cultivate positive self-talk, don’t just uncritically accept whatever you mind tells you
About 25mg of Prozac a day and a job that supports my mild drug habit.
For fear, anxiety, and panic, the 5-4-3-2-1 Exercise is amazing.
Read up on stoicism
Mindfulness meditation, not the catchy popular kind your work teaches but the actual Buddhist mindfulness. It’s whole purpose is to be able to see the arising and passing away of thoughts/feelings without getting involved.
Breathing exercises
Distraction is the best coping method. I listen to audiobooks instead of trying to sleep and I fall asleep faster without the constant stream of internal anxious chatter