Right now I’ve been using Tailscale because it automatically adapts to my network conditions. If I’m at home, it’ll prioritize local network connection, but when I’m out and about, it’ll automatically beam a direct connection or use a relay.
One gripe I have about it is I can’t run it alongside my normal VPNs on my mobile devices. I have to choose between one or the other.
I have tried Cloudflare Tunnel before, but using it for streaming, like Jellyfin, is forbidden. There’s also the added latency and slowness to having to hop through multiple DCs to reach Cloudflare and back.
I expose my services to the web via my own VPS proxy :) I simply run only very few of them, use 2FA when supported, keep them up to date, run each service as rootless podman, and have a very verbose logcheck set up in case the container environment gets compromised, and allow only ports 80 and 443, and, very importantly, truly sensitive data (documents and such) is encrypted at rest so that even if my services are compromised that data remains secure.
For ssh, I have set up a separate raspberry pi as a wireguard server into my home network. Therefore, for any ssh management I first connect via this wireguard connection.