I have a 9-5 job and my roommate doesn’t, which means our schedules not entirely aligned. They often stay up until 2-3am talking on the phone. We live in a very quiet neighborhood and our rooms are directly adjacent, and as a result I can hear them very clearly. I usually have to ask them to quiet down and they do, but I nonetheless can usually still hear them. I often feel exhausted because of this. My job has been quite stressful recently and I feel like my wellbeing is plummeting because of these factors.
They claim that, because they’re already talking as quietly as they can, I should use earplugs or headphones to deal with it.
I want for them to finish their calls much earlier but their friends apparently can’t make that work. I feel like I’m going crazy with lack of sleep, am I the asshole?
NAH, but the roommate is right that you should use earplugs. Shared living situations require compromise.
NTA, shared living spaces should have quiet times regardless of the persons’ work schedules. Do you have a separate kitchen or sitting room in the house? Ask them to do their late night calls there if they want to
NTA clearly. I agree that they need to go elsewhere, if there’s nowhere in the apartment then outside. In one shared place I lived in we used to go sit on the stairs, that might be appropriate, or just go sit in their car.
You deserve to sleep.
