Yeah… I’ll probably end up doing that eventually. I am going to give her a little while to see if she can be consistent in her interactions with me and if she appears to be genuinely pursuing a healthy way of relating to people, because she does seem prone to impulsivity and I also suspect that what she just did with me may be a cycle for her, but I don’t have evidence to back that up yet.

But all humans need grace to be flawed & mess up & be inconsistent, and I want to give her some of that grace before I walk away entirely.

Thank you for your kind & insightful comment <3

Sexual intimacy and emotional intimacy are entirely different things.

Yeah, she did break things off after she’d shared a particularly emotionally vulnerable side of herself, so I think it’s emotional intimacy that scares her. Which just sucks, because I handled it really well and made her feel better in that moment and feel safe and cared for and I thought I’d aced the “emotional intimacy” test, so to speak.

And some people want to “fix” people, places, things, animals because they feel incredibly broken and haven’t the skills, tools to fix themselves, or even how to acquire them, or even that they need to work on themselves.

Yeah, I think I see this in her too, because she was fine talking about my hardships in life, but was pretty closed off about her own.

I hope you continue to work through not only this pain, but everything else that led you to where you were before meeting this person, because you are so incredibly worth it. You matter. Your feelings matter. Your healing matters. Best to you.

Thanks again, you seem like a really cool human 🫂

The person you are describing hasn’t done anything bad to you, as far as I can tell. They just have chosen themselves over you. You have nothing to do with it, you couldn’t change, you couldn’t do something differently or say something else.

Yeah, if you read my entire post, I said all of that. I agree with you.

But it seems that you victimize yourself

Feeling and expressing emotional pain is not the same as victimizing oneself. Heartbreak is a normal response to being broken up with.

you cry like a baby

Crying is a healthy response to emotional pain

you just say that you don’t want it anyway

Where did I say that?

Regulating this kind of emotional state is a basic adult skill.

Yes, and writing out your honest, unfiltered feelings and thoughts is part of emotional regulation. Any mental health expert will affirm that what I have posted is a tool used to try to manage my emotions in a healthy manner.

Would you mind explaining which part is “problematic” or gives the impression of “psychosis”?

Thanks, friend. I’m so sorry to hear that you can relate, it really is one of the shittiest feelings.

Idk if you ever watched “How I Met Your Mother” — it hasn’t aged well at all, and fuck Neil Patrick Harris, but that episode about Barney Stinson’s villain origin story is feeling really relatable right about now (joking)

This coming from Schumer is honestly almost as shocking as Stevens choosing to completely burn her bridges with the Democratic Party.

Boycott.

Which business off of which Robert Kraft actually makes money would you recommend the average person boycott?

But you

You know nothing about me

don’t even want to change which brand of Mac & Cheese you buy

Robert Kraft has nothing to do with Kraft Mac & Cheese, which I don’t buy either.

Your entire comment hinges off assumptions that you are making about a complete stranger, and off of the assumption that Robert Kraft has anything to do with Kraft Heinz.

You are judging strangers based on your own misinformed perspective. But do go on, by all means.

ELI5 how the average person can go after Robert Kraft in any meaningful way

Yeah, I exclusively watch the PWHL, so I was initially very confused by this post, lol

Yup! I intentionally go shopping looking like absolute trash, because almost every time I go shopping, someone assumes I work there, and I’m way too nice and often end up helping them anyway.

I’ll wear sweats, an oversized hoodie, a backwards baseball cap, and earbuds, someone will still stop me and ask me a question obviously meant for a store employee.

This entire thread started because you called an entire country a “shithole” based on less than 200 square meters

If you think 104 words is a novel, 24 of which are your own, we should all be very concerned about your reading skills.

It’s just my opinion.

Presumably almost everything anyone posts is their opinion. That’s kind of how being a person works.

If you don’t like it downvote

Wow, I didn’t know I could do that, thanks for the info

and move on

You have the right to leave a comment. I have the right to respond to it. If you don’t want people responding to you, then you shouldn’t make comments.

Let me guess you have an urge to shut me up?

Nope, just wanted to point out the lack of logic in your comment, that’s all. Keep saying ridiculous shit, I don’t mind, lol

This is one section of one street of one neighborhood in one municipality.

If this is how you determine “shithole countries”, all countries are shitholes.

I deleted my Meta accounts when Zuck became openly sycophantic towards Trump.

If my friends want to talk to me, they text me. Some even got Signal because I told them it was my preferred messaging app.

If they want to send a social media post/reel to me, they can text me with the link to it and I can view it in browser.

You can’t force your friends to care about surveillance, but you can choose to do what you believe is right, and your real friends will accommodate you, even if they don’t understand.

How can you reasonably make that assessment from this one clip?

I have yet to see them bring the same energy that republicans bring when they are in the minority.

Which Dem leadership could also certainly do to the MAGA agenda if they wanted to

he has publicly apologized

He said he was sorry for “causing pain”, he didn’t apologize for making the donation or for being against same-sex marriage.

and that he has not done anything besides that one instance

He has also not donated to pro-LGBTQ+ causes or expressed support for same-sex marriage since then either.

do you really think he fits the definition of being “Openly anti LGBT+”?

Yes.

It should, since even Deflocked identifies all ALPRs, not just Flock