• Kitathalla@lemy.lol
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    19 minutes ago

    And then I call you again immediately, because I don’t call unless it’s a very time-sensitive matter… but that’s probably why the meme isn’t referencing me in the first place.

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    10 hours ago

    The worst ones are when its some office or something and you have to listen to the voicemail and then call them back

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    10 hours ago

    I don’t get this. Y’all should talk to a psychologist. Its a goddamn mobile phone. If you don’t want to use a device’s primary function maybe you should use something else to browse porn.

    And if talking to people makes you anxious and makes you feel violated or makes it feel like someone is disrespecting your private bubble…

    You should go out more. Without that gd device in your pocket because clearly, obviously to everyone else but you that device is hampering you, limiting you even hurting you.

    This is crazy.

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      I never wanted a cell phone in the first place. I just needed one when my house burned down. If it were up to me, they would never have existed, and the pay phones would still work. Don’t you remember how nice going to the movies used to be?

      Hell yeah I should go out more. While I’m out, I want you to leave a message on my answering machine that I will ignore if it doesn’t start with a number.

    • rockerface 🇺🇦@lemm.ee
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      Just because it’s normalized doesn’t mean it should be. Several decades ago it used to be perfectly normal and polite to smoke in restaurants next to strangers.

      Just because making calls is one of the functions of the device in my hands doesn’t mean it’s its primary function.

      If you disagree with the take that unplanned phone calls without an emergency are invasive, imagine this comment is a phone call and you need to answer as soon as I post it, otherwise I’ll be quite upset with you not responding.

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      9 hours ago

      I think your comment reads quite combative.

      I think with the context of the Meme, yes there are some people who call you and you just know its gonna be a huge annoying phone call that you should just avoid and text the person after because some people just wanna talk your ears off.

      I dunno if we have to do the: omg millenials/gen alpha is too phone anxious thing.

      And sure its called a mobile phone, but as an argument that feels somewhat pedantic nowadays. Primarily its a mobile internet connected computer nowadays I would say. I use the camera/ texting/ social media functions way more than the real phone capabilities. Maybe thats different for you but I don’t think it’s uncommon that its one of the lesser used functions.

      Sure if people are too anxious to pick up the phone and it negatively impacts their life they should get help for it. I don’t think we should shame them in that case though. It feels to me like shaming depressed people when they cannot find the energy to shower, which I would similarly feel is inadequate input.

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        9 hours ago

        I agree with you, they shouldn’t be shamed.

        But it’s important for people to understand this is a symptom of deeper rooted issue instead of trying to normalize it. That’ll put undue stress on future generations who won’t understand why this is the norm.

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          I’d say phone calls are the normalized issue. It’s a wild concept that I can just immediately go and bother any person I know a phone number of and demand they respond immediately.

          I get that back when the real time voice calls were the only option, barring the actual paper mail, it would be more tolerable. But now we have so many alternatives, surely we can normalize using communication methods that suit the situation.

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            7 hours ago

            Yeah true, I wanna be sure how the person reacted instead of guessing and letting my anxiety go wild.

            I don’t even like client calls if they switch off the video but at that point we should be able to manage & make global collaborations possible.

            Tldr Not wanting to meet people is a downward spiral.

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      Yeah, they are lucky to have me. Instant access to me via phonecall is not one of the reasons, but that’s fine because they don’t need instant access via phonecall.

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      15 hours ago

      My friends and family know not to call me unless somebody is dead or dying. It’s worked out pretty well so far

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      17 hours ago

      Usually friends and family actually care about respecting the wishes of the person they’re trying to contact. That concept might be unfamiliar to you.

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        Nah you’re 100% in the wrong here, and it’s wild that you bring up respect, as if this attitude and behavior isn’t incredibly disrespectful. Calling someone is literally not disrespectful. What the fuck is wrong with people

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          Not a single person in my life has ever had an issue with the fact that i prefer to be texted and reserve phone calls for more immediate issues. My time belongs to me and no one else so I have no obligation to answer people, and text is faster to parse for me and always has a protocol available if I need it later.

          Calling someone isn’t disrespectful. Calling someone that has made it clear they do not want to be called except for emergencies is. In my case I’d just mute all calls from them after it happens the second time.

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          Isn’t it? On a cell phone it demands that I drop what I’m doing at a moment’s notice and respond to your inquiry. Unless it is something time-sensitive, the call probably should have been scheduled or a text message would have served the purpose without demanding an instant response

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            Yeah its like walking into a room without knocking, while im talking to someone and just screaming at the top of your lungs: “WE NEED TO TALK RIGHT NOW”

            If you did that irl without a very good reason i would slap you.

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              The phone rings, that’s the knock. You can hang up for many reasons. Maybe it’s the culture of 100% availability that’s wrong, and not phoning.

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                then you have say something along the lines of “sorry about that” and they are obligated to respond along the lines of “don’t worry about it”, then here is where I forget what the topic was with both people because my deteriorating mind does nothing but fail me these days.

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            10 hours ago

            Phone rings

            “Hi, do you have time for the call now?”

            “No, Im busy right now, I will call you back.”

            Where disrespectfull?

            Way faster then text!

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              9 hours ago

              Phone rings

              I’m doing the dishes and my hands are wet

              I’m sitting on the toilet

              I’m in an online game

              I just got the baby to sleep

              I’m pipetting a solution

              I’m with a customer

              My hands are covered in engine grease

              I’m meditating

              I’m on my bicycle

              I have gloves on

              I’m carrying heavy furniture

              I’m driving

              I’m swimming at the pool

              I’m in the middle of a set

              I’m trying to put out a grease fire on the stove

              Sure, I can ignore the phone, but it’s loud and distracting.

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            Right? IMO it’s rude to just call someone out of the blue and expect that they’ll be able to drop everything to chat with you.

            Unfortunately, my mom loves to call unannounced, and because my parents are getting older I feel the need to answer in case something’s wrong.