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        I get so excited when I see one. I was bullied a lot and it’s nice not to associate height with negativity, other women living their best life is as positive as it gets

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          Yeah I’ve got a complicated relationship with my height and size in general. Like on one hand it amplifies a lot of the crap I deal with being trans, and it’s always so awkward being a head taller than every other woman in a room, and I find myself trying to make myself smaller, but on the other hand I’m barely taller than my mom and some of my old friends from growing up are tall enough they had to be tested for gigantism as kids so I’ve got so many positive associations with height, and my wife really likes my height

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        I’m six foot and my husband is 5’9, we’ve been together over 20 years. There’s always a shot, believe you’re a short king and women will believe in you. Confidence > everything else. You’ll find your person.

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            You’re lucky if that’s the medium in your country. In my country the average for men is 6 ft exactly. Being 5’10" I’m actually quite short. Which is also reason #128 why I’m not on Tinder anymore lmao, I don’t look super short in real life but when every fifth non-bot Tinder profile says “little boys under 180 cm can swipe left”, you kind of lose motivation when you’re a centimeter or two short of the benchmark.

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        I’m 5’3 and my wife is closer to 5’10. My wife is quite charming and attractive whilst I have a huge personality.

        Awful joke that scarcely carries into text aside, it’s possible to date successfully as a short man. You just have to have things to offer, then find someone who values those things. Having really excellent things, like fantastic conversational skills and personality, well-developed or unique personal interests, or a monster condom that you use for your magnum dong, helps immensely.

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          Nice! I’m 6’ myself, and a girl caught me by surprise one time after we meet up early on in the Tinder days (when it was more innocent). Anyway, she was 6’ AND had 2-3" heels on too! It’s not often a girl is taller than me, but it was so attractive, she was so shy or self conscious about it. I reassured her I knew she said she was tall and had nothing to worry about!

          Dinner was great, she was great, but she didn’t like being taller than me (that night at least). Nothing more came of it, but I could tell she was slightly uncomfortable about the whole thing, and I paid her honest compliments to try to put her at ease.

          Last we talked, she dated a guy 6’4. Oh well, hope she’s doing alright these days.

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            Long before Tinder I matched / went on a date with a heavier woman who had obvious issues with her size. Not sure what she was trying to do, but apparently f a t was her trigger word, she instantly dissolved in a pool of irreconcilable tears. I made it clear I had no problem with the size, found her attractive as she was - even before saying the trigger word, but the fragility and deep lack of self esteem was more than I could handle.

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              Yeah I feel like you need to be confident in yourself before you start dating. You can’t make your happiness dependent on someone else. It’s not fair on them and it’s dangerous for you.